Friday 17 June 2016

I don't want pink or blue, I want the rainbow!



This week I have seen several adverts and posts about a new brand of doll specifically for boys. The dolls are wearing all sorts of different outfits, the one I remember seeing was a construction worker.

But why? Why do we need a doll for a boy that is wearing the uniform of a typically male role.

I thought we were in an age of gender equality and neutrality? Even Jules Oliver's Little Bird brand is designed as unisex, toy stores are moving away from 'boys' and 'girls' toy aisles. So why bring out these dolls and hail them as revolutionary or ground breaking?

They're not.
 
My son has both a gay man and a gay woman as god-parents and will grow up with friends with same sex parents. Gender and sexuality in our social circle are rather fluid concepts. I love that my children will grow up with a totally broad ranging and and inclusive version of 'normal'. I love it because I think it will make my children's lives richer but also because I hope it will make them better people. Better than our generation.

You only have to look in the news and comments made on social media at the moment to see what happens when fear and hate are instilled in people's minds. When a strict and rigid set of ideals are taught that ostracise or persecute people for the fundamental parts of who they are.


Our children are small and impressionable and have minds ready and ripe for shaping. I think that is why these dolls have pissed me off so much. We should be challenging these outdated stereotypes on behalf of our children, not reinforcing them. If we teach our children at such a young age that there are 'boys roles' and 'girls roles', 'boys toys' and 'girls toys' then we are already teaching them that anything or anyone that falls outside of these divides is not the norm, and therefore is wrong.

I am sure that the company that have bought out these toys thought they were doing something great for little boys, that they wanted to make a dolly for all the little boys out there that wanted a dolly. They wanted little boys to be able to have dollies too. But why didn't they just put up a fucking bill board saying BOYS CAN HAVE DOLLS TOO and be done with it. Why not just stick the dolls next to the cars and say YOU DO NOT NEED TO CHOOSE.

Why bring out a doll that says "Hey little boys, you may play with a dolly as long as it is of a man, (A MAN, not even a sodding baby), and is dressed in the uniform of a job that, despite the fact it could be done by women is mostly done by men, because society is backward and intolerant and we want you to be too."

Now, I am sure that that is not really what the company intended to or actually thought (no law suits please!) But that is what these dolls say to me.
 
I think you should be able to look into a toy box and simply be able to say, "Oh look, it's a box of toys!"

 

10 comments:

  1. Good point! At the very least, they could have boys and girls in the different outfits. I love the billboard idea though! A while back there was a huge stink about taking out the boy and girl toys aisles at Toys R Us, and I had no idea why people were so upset about the toys being mixed together. Why not just put up signs that say "Toys"?

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    1. Thanks for commenting! I don't see why there needs to be a separation, little children should be able to just pick a toy that makes them happy!

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  2. I would see the side of the company who were trying to come up with toys that perhaps promote the concept that's it's ok for boys to play with dolls. I haven't seen them, so I can't say what they look like - maybe I'd have gotten annoyed if I saw them too! In Ireland they've launched a doll called Lottie, who has normal proportions of a child (as in not crazy skinny waist and pointy feet - ahem Barbie)and I think this is a really positive move - she's doing jobs like Scientist, astronaut etc. Previous to this, it wasn't acceptable for a boy to play with dolls (apart from GI Joe). I think it may be a positive move towards gender neutralising toys, but of course, it has to be done in the right way. #effitfriday

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    1. I love the sound of Lottie! Thanks for commenting!

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  3. What an interesting post - I wrote about gender neutrality on my blog a while back now and it evoked quite a lot of debate needless to say. I stand with you though, there is no need to have gender specific toys. Toys are toys and kids are kids. Thanks for sharing on #fortheloveofBLOG x

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  4. I feel the same way about pink. Why shouldn't boys be able to wear pink if they want and not be looked at as odd? Society is broken and sadly won't be fixed in our children's generation. Thanks so much for linking with #momsterslink and I apologize for the delay in commenting as I've been on vacation for 2 weeks. Do hope to see you again tomorrow!

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    1. Hope you enjoyed your holidays! My son is 'fabulous' and rocks a pink hat! I love that he is quirky and has not yet felt the need to choose between pink or blue!

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  5. Yes! Though I get the point of having dolls who are dressed up as different jobs, construction, health, random in a suit, chef, air crew, pilot, etc because I think they are great for role play. But to market at boys as "boys" dolls. Nope. With you there!!x

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    1. It's really the fact that they are advertised as 'dolls' for boys and are adults in uniforms where as a girls 'doll' tends to be a baby or something you can dress yourself. I dont think it sends a positive message of gender equality! Glad you enjoyed the post! X

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