Wednesday, 15 June 2016

Funday Wednesday!

Funday Wednesday is the best day of the week!

Funday Wednesday is a day that I spend with my maayte.

Funday Wednesday started about 18 months ago, just after I finished breastfeeding my son.

My maayte and I were trying to decide what we were going to do one Wednesday. We were in a bit of a funk, the weather was gash and there is not a massive amount to do with small babies on a rainy day. We were desperate to get out of our houses (and each others) and were hitting a bit of a wall.

"We could just go to the pub!" My maayte laughed.

"Ha, Ha! I wish" I replied.

And then...we realised..Why the fuck not?

We weren't sick, we weren't skieving work, we were on maternity leave. We were 2 grown-ass women with babies small enough to sleep in a pram while we had a glass of wine. We spent all day caring for children, keeping the house, doing shit that needed to be done, didn't we deserve a treat too?

We looked at each other, a twinkle of excitement in our eyes.

Let's do iiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit!!!!!

And we did! And it was great. It became a regular treat for us, not every Wednesday but a lot of Wednesdays.

I don't feel guilty. I have guilt over many many things and many many parenting fails but I don't feel guilty about having Funday Wednesday. I say in with pride, I consider it my badge of honour.

Parenting is laden with judgement.

We judge ourselves, we judge our children, and we judge each other. In the early days of being a new parent I was so consumed with what other people (parents) would think about me. I think a lot of the judgement I felt was in my head, I mistook the tired gazes of other mummies as stares of judgement. The constant anxiety over whether I was doing a good enough job was exhausting. The fear that I couldn't live up to this non-existent standard of mummyhood.

Funday Wednesday liberated me from an imaginary oppression that I had created for myself.

I am not advocating getting shit faced in the middle of the day every day and being incapable of caring for your child but let your hair down, give yourselves a treat, and don't give a fuck!


  1. Absolutely! We need to be able to treat ourselves. My husband and I have 'adults dinner' once a week with booze and it's the best night of the week. #stayclassymama

  2. Sounds great, I hear you about the constant judge it is so,dame hard to get a balance. I say fair play as we all need a break or we was all go potty. X

  3. Good for you! Go girl! I like your thinking. You work hard 24/7 why not have a little treat when you have the opportunity. #fortheloveofBLOG

  4. YES!! Need I say more? I love it! Fun day Wednesday here I come!


  5. Totally! We all need time to just be ourselves and let our hair down! Thanks for joining us on #fortheloveofBLOG x

  6. This sounds like something I can totally get behind. When my first baby was tiny I'd often have a glass with lunch out! Now I have to have my wits about me so I save my wine drinking for 7.01pm :D #KCACOLS

  7. HELL YEAH! You go, sista! Every mom needs a Funday Wednesday!


  8. Yes of course why not having some "me time". It is so needed! I'm always happier after having some time for myself! We should all do it! ;-) Thanks so much for sharing this at #KCACOLS :-) xx