Funday Wednesday is the best day of the week!
Funday Wednesday is a day that I spend with my maayte.
Funday Wednesday started about 18 months ago, just after I finished breastfeeding my son.
My maayte and I were trying to decide what we were going to do one Wednesday. We were in a bit of a funk, the weather was gash and there is not a massive amount to do with small babies on a rainy day. We were desperate to get out of our houses (and each others) and were hitting a bit of a wall.
"We could just go to the pub!" My maayte laughed.
"Ha, Ha! I wish" I replied.
And then...we realised..Why the fuck not?
We weren't sick, we weren't skieving work, we were on maternity leave. We were 2 grown-ass women with babies small enough to sleep in a pram while we had a glass of wine. We spent all day caring for children, keeping the house, doing shit that needed to be done, didn't we deserve a treat too?
We looked at each other, a twinkle of excitement in our eyes.
Let's do iiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit!!!!!
And we did! And it was great. It became a regular treat for us, not every Wednesday but a lot of Wednesdays.
I don't feel guilty. I have guilt over many many things and many many parenting fails but I don't feel guilty about having Funday Wednesday. I say in with pride, I consider it my badge of honour.
Parenting is laden with judgement.
We judge ourselves, we judge our children, and we judge each other. In the early days of being a new parent I was so consumed with what other people (parents) would think about me. I think a lot of the judgement I felt was in my head, I mistook the tired gazes of other mummies as stares of judgement. The constant anxiety over whether I was doing a good enough job was exhausting. The fear that I couldn't live up to this non-existent standard of mummyhood.
Funday Wednesday liberated me from an imaginary oppression that I had created for myself.
I am not advocating getting shit faced in the middle of the day every day and being incapable of caring for your child but let your hair down, give yourselves a treat, and don't give a fuck!